Ever have a client or vendor that made your heart rate jump just by calling you? What is it that triggers that fear? Anxiety? Dread?
For me, I know it is my own issue. As Bonnie Raitt says… “I can’t make you love me..” And, I cannot make these people love, nor like, nor respect me either. Yet, I constantly find myself hoping that this time.. just this time.. things will be different. (It’s like a bad marriage!) I’ll have my work done earlier. I’ll have it proofed by two senior management staff before sending it out. I’ll work over the weekend…. etc.
So, naturally, I need to be professional and mature about these reactions.. even if my client or vendor is not. And, quite honestly, I’m a sensitive person by nature. It’s truly hard for me to understand why another person cannot extend the courtesy of workplace respect. Why are they so bitter or harsh, even when you are helping them?
I had this eye-opening, apple doesn’t fall far from the tree- moment when our nine- year old daughter came home from school with the same sad tale.. a group of girls who just don’t like her.. no matter what. “It is how it is.. but we don’t have to like it”… is what I said to her. I guess I better take some of my own advice!