Why Are You Hiding? The Danger of Doing It Alone

Why ARE you hiding?  You say, “I’m not hiding, I’m focusing.” 

Well, I call ‘BS’.

Call it a bad case of control-freak or just a plain case of fear of what others think…but I believe that many of my peer admins try to resolve big problems on their own.  And while trying to do so, they isolate and get caught up in their own noggin.

This is so dangerous.  One loses perspective and an ability to see potential options to resolve the problem.

My advice? 

1. Write it down.  That’s correct.  Write down exactly what the problem is.

2. Write down the names of at least 3 persons you think may be able to help you solve the problem.

3. Then contact each person one by one if time permits.  If time does not permit, go by your instinct and call first person’s name you wrote down.

4.  Try this opening or something like it.

Hey, I have a dilemma and I’d love your take on it.  NOTE you are not asking them to solve it.  You are asking for their perspective.  Often times, that’s all we need to hear.

It’s a skill I learned from a previous supervisor and it has been a useful tool for me.  So, don’t hide. Don’t try to pass it off as ‘focusing on a resolution’.  Get perspective and gain progress.

Author: KMK Foley

Storyteller. Wicked sense of humor. Tenacious learner, Coffee Lover, especially Dunkin' Donuts.